When it comes to popping this question, many people agree that ‘simple’ is out and ‘elaborate’ is in.
Society, women and their peers expect not only memorable but dramatic pre-engagement scenes and stories. It’s no mystery why guys are under a massive pressure to meet these high expectations.
Maybe you’ve done your first homework: selecting the best engagement symbol among numerous diamond rings jewelry shops. Now, your next assignment is to figure out a unique way of asking your girlfriend to be your bride.
Hollywood movies and TV series don’t make it any easier either. They set the bar too high that guys get frustrated when they try to copy them. Most proposals portrayed in media are ridiculously expensive, not to mention embarrassing. So forget about imitating their styles.
Instead, focus on the essential elements of a romantic marriage proposal and plan one that suits your circumstances and pleases your bride-to-be.
What is the ideal backdrop for your proposal? Some locations are remarkably romantic by nature. But you still need to find one that matches your sweetheart’s preference or one that she expects the least. Consider the beach, mountains, gardens, and specific locations (e.g. Disney World, Eiffel Tower or Niagara falls).
Do you prefer fireworks, flower petals, or balloons? Should it be public, semi-public, or private? Maybe you can afford to take your girlfriend to her dream destination and then get down on one knee to propose. If money isn’t an issue, then go ahead book a trip for two and fly to that special location.
If finance or time is a problem, think outside the box. Remember that the venue does not have to be over-the-top. It could be the first place where you two have met for the first time or the exact spot where you first told her that you love her.
Your plans on the proposal will greatly depend on your chosen setting. For instance, if you decide to stay in a scenic island in Jamaica or Hawaii, you can pop the question while you’re on a kayak. Or you may get down on your knees as you both watch the sunset or when you’ve reached the island’s highest peak with a fantastic view as your background.
Some men like mystery and adventure. They are ready to go great lengths to pull off a labyrinthine proposal. If your honey prefers more action and adventure, then an Amazing Race-like proposal might work. At the end of the challenge, simply ask, “Will you do this with me for the rest of our lives? Or something as mushy and cute as, “Will you be my partner in crime for life?
When you think about it, a marriage proposal is mostly about the message and how it’s delivered. In movies, you remember the lines that moved you more than any other story elements.
No need to memorize each word you wish to say. If you want, you can even record a video of yourself asking for her lifetime love and devotion. Or you may write a letter. Or you can take it further by creating a scrapbook chronicling your journeys as a couple, with a final message: “Please be my bride.”
4. Family and Friends
Though most women want to avoid crowds during this big day, they want their friends and family to be around to witness this moment. They are also the best cheerers and well-wishers.
In some cultures, a man usually informs the family of his girlfriend before they propose. But for others, it’s enough to be present during the proposal. There’s no universal rule but your significant other will surely appreciate that you’ve put a lot of thought on the specifics (e.g. custom, tradition, and her family’s schedules).
If there’s no video or photo, it never happened.
Even camera-shy couples still prefer to capture this moment. You can ask your friends or a staff in a specific destination to take pictures or videos of you.
Most women (18-34 years old) surveyed about their dream proposal said they want the ‘magical moment’ to be recorded. Don’t dismiss it as whimsical; you’ll surely share laughter and tears when you relive this heartwarming memory later on.
Don’t forget to share with us the brilliant ideas you’ve come up with using these pointers. We’ll also appreciate if you’ll tell us a little bit about her reaction. Cheers to long-lasting love!
By Guest Blogger Mitchell Wakehurst for ChasingTreasure, provider of beautiful heirloom quality wooden jewelry boxes and womens jewelry boxes, and jewelry armoires where she can store her jewelry treasures that she’ll accumulate over a lifetime of marriage.